The Meaning of Life: Finding Your True Identity

Among our most important beliefs are those we hold about who we are.

People have enormous capabilities beyond what’s thought to be possible. The power to tap into our tremendous potential comes from our identity: how we define ourselves, and what believe we can achieve.

Identity is the strongest force in human personality. We all have a deep and abiding need to remain consistent with how we define ourselves. Any transformation you make within yourself will depend on your ability to expand this identity. By building a new, empowering set of beliefs, you can create a lasting transformation within yourself and in your life.

The Key Principles of Identity

1. Identity is the most important power that determines our actions. We will act according to our views of who we truly are—whether these views are accurate or not.

2. Once we know who we are, we must learn to be ourselves. Trying to live in a way that’s inconsistent with our true nature will create a life of frustration, stress and disappointment. We must learn to embrace our deepest needs, desires, strengths, fears, values and beliefs in order to create harmony and tap into our tremendous potential.

3. Sometimes, people maintain the illusion that their behavior decides who they really are. Nothing could be further from the truth. We have all experienced moments of anxiety and defeat, and as a result have said or done things that don’t reflect who we are. This does not make these behaviors a part of our identity. Rather, they are momentary lapses or unique attempts to meet our needs in the moment.

4. When you take responsibility, you restore your identity. When we create unfavorable or hostile situations, we should take action to repair any harm that we may have caused.

5. The fastest way to expand our identity is to do something that’s inconsistent with our current self-image. For example, complete a physical challenge like surfing or sky diving as a way to shake things up.

6. Our personal identities are in a constant state of evolution. We all contain the power to reinvent ourselves and create
a new, empowered identity that expands what is possible in our lives. The key is to take conscious control of the beliefs we are creating about ourselves, so they can propel us toward what we desire most.

“Your philosophy of life shapes you more than anything else.” —Anthony Robbins


  1. Greetings family’s
    Trust is the foundation of Lability and happiness love everything in life
    Love and respect comes first with trust

    Tijan on September 17th 2013
  2. I’ve never had anyone articulate in such detail the thoughts, steps and emotions on how to improve myself…take myself to the next level. Tony, your ability to instill movement and capability as well as ownership to others through merely a media connection is astounding. I’ve listened to your tapes from my recent purchase and the humbleness of your character, the tone of your voice and the savvy of your insight has actually awakened me and reminded me of what I am made of and who I am as an individual. I have accomplished specific goals in my life for which I am proud of, although I still have others to achieve. As you have been told so many times, you are amazing.
    p.s. I cannot tell you how often I have laughted when you “yell” about doing the assignmemts…I think that in and of itself woke me up. Your unique approach has touched so many….I am blessed to have been among the many. I will stay the course — and look forward to your seminar in Jersey in November.

    Gina on August 10th 2013
  3. On the 3rd part you said “This does not make these behaviors a part of our identity. Rather, they are momentary lapses or unique attempts to meet our needs in the moment.” which is true, but I tend to disagree here!
    Our behavior have tow sides, conscious and unconscious. and unconscious part have a deep impact on how we operate throughout the day. when we are questioned or facing anxieties and etc. it becomes so hard to act rationally and our habits which had been built up deep in our unconscious mind take control of the situation and we react on the immediate feeling we have in the moment. of course when the tension is gone we are able to think rationally again and re review what we have done and (mentioned in 4th part)correct what we had done wrong.
    But those immediate reactions are a part of our unconscious identity, which we just don’t know about. So we can use those moments of impact to indicate what flaws we have deep inside of our personalities and by knowing what is going on in our unconscious mind we can begin to engineer our personality to reach the identity we desire to have.

    By the way it was a very useful and convincing article, thanks.
    Be victorious.

    Navid Sakhai on August 7th 2013

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