Master Your Emotional Health and Master Your Life

TonyRobbins_20130729.inddEmotional mastery is the key to living a life that you direct. The capacity to have absolute direct power over what you feel in every single moment—no matter what happens around you—is one of the most important skill sets you can have.

There are three forces in the world that determine what you feel. These forces are called the Triad. Together, these three patterns create any—and every—emotional state.

Whatever you feel, you’re not feeling it because you have to feel it. You’re feeling it because you’ve chosen from the Triad. In order to master your emotions and consciously choose the emotions you want to live in, you need to understand these three forces and how to use them to your advantage.

#1: Physiology

Emotion is created by motion. Whatever you’re feeling right now is directly related to how you’re using your body. If you slump your shoulders and lean your head forward, you’ll move toward a state of depression. However, the next time you find yourself in a negative state, stand up, throw your shoulders back and take a few deep breaths. You’ll find that you’re able to put yourself in a resourceful state. From this state, you can make stronger decisions and enjoy a sense of certainty that will keep you calm in the face of uncertainty.

#2: Language

Language comes in many forms, one of which includes the questions you ask yourself, either aloud or inside your head. If you ask, “Why does this always have to happen to me?” you’ll create a much different set of emotions than if you asked, “How can I benefit from this?” or “Where’s the gift in this?” or “What’s humorous about this?”

The language patterns you run play a significant role in the meaning you give a situation—and the emotion that situation creates in you. When you feel negative emotions taking over, look at the language surrounding your situation. How can you shift it to create a more empowering state?

#3: Focus

Where focus goes, energy flows. And where energy flows, whatever you’re focusing on grows. In other words, your life is controlled by what you focus on. That’s why you need to focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear. When you next find yourself in a state of uncertainty, resist your fear. Shift your focus toward where you want to go and your actions will take you in that direction.

Understanding—and influencing—your Triad is the first step toward emotional mastery. When you can influence your emotions using the Triad, you can choose to spend more time in positive, resourceful emotional states. From these states, you’ll make the decisions that will help you reach your highest potential and enjoy your life in every moment.


  1. ‘Where focus goes, energy flows’ I love that! This is great advice, simple and straight forward. People forget that just adjusting your Physiology can change your mood, looking up, not hunched over, dancing to music, movement is positivity. No wonder so many people get depressed when we sit too much, watch TV, looking at computers!
    I do all of these thing (listed by Tony) and I’m the happiest person I know!!

    Thank you!

    Liv Lively on March 18th 2014
  2. Tony, thank you very much! I promise I’ll keep everything learned in UPW Fort Lauderdale. My life is another from now. You are great!

    Marilyn Medina on March 10th 2014
  3. Hi, my name is Alice, I’m from Brazil, i’m 24, and last year i found myself lost and unfocused. THen i found your stuff, your books, vídeos, and material, and my life got back on track. Now i have a good job, a savings account, i’m going to start to invest this year, but with caution, and now i’m focusing on getting my body into shape and health. Thanks for everything. I really owe you. ^_^

    Alice on February 26th 2014
  4. There are moments where I’m not really able to shift how I feel at time even by doing the language & phisiology, as a woman we are natural emotional creature, there are times when shifting technic does help but there also times when we need just to feel.
    Please give me insight about this situation.

    Yasinta on January 16th 2014
  5. Thank you!
    that was a right thing in right time for me.

    Mary on December 27th 2013
  6. Thanks Tony!I an in China ,I love you so much !I believe I an transform my life !

    Tristan on December 25th 2013
  7. Awesome! Master Your Emotions is Key!

    Tom on December 12th 2013
  8. I appreciate how you dissect emotional mastery.

    Tera on November 22nd 2013
  9. That’s really interesting. I was aware of focus and language (or more general, thoughts) to influence my emotions, but I didn’t really know that physiology can have an impact on my emotions.

    But, it’s true, whenever I feel down and decide to go for a run, I usually feel much better after only 20-30 minutes.

    Robert on November 15th 2013
  10. Thanks Tony!
    I love the part on language. Powerful questions are a key tool for a coach and they can easily be used by anyone for self coaching.
    On focus, I find visualization to be incredibly powerful as this is not only thinking about the ideal but also seeing it in your mind’s eye which is how the mind thinks anyway.

    Abe on November 13th 2013

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